What’s on Judy’s mind?

"Trust is quite a powerful relational dynamic. Having it exist mutually between two people is can be magic. When trust combines with a depth of self-disclosure, then there is even more power. Respect grows. In fact, when mutual trust rises, so do many relational quality indicators.

And yet, the stronger trust becomes, the more vulnerable the relationship becomes. How ironic. The trust paradox demands that the relationship become stronger by way of exposing weakness.

Now, don’t get me wrong, vulnerability is not weakness. I define it as the extent to which a person could be hurt by another. It is the extent to which a person reveals his or her softest spots. It is a willingness to be unprotected in the presence of another."

via http://fajita.wordpress.com/2006/12/11/trust-paradox/

The above quote resonated me and stood out for me.  I'm getting a better understanding about how trust is a foundation of building any relationship.  I trust that my husband will not cheat on me, tell me what is bothering him, or support me in my decisions.  I trust my kids to do the right thing when he/she is pressured to do and act something they are made to feel.  I am confident that if I need a friend's advise or my family to help I will get that support.  Trust is not giving to me automatically and for me to develop that connection, I have to express it that I'm wanting your trust.  If you give it back to me, I would be happy to build that relationship with you.  And if you don't,  I am okay with it because you can't force someone to trust you back.  This exchange of trust is a connection that I share with that person.  Trust is something that can't be created out of thin air and some relationships takes time to grow and some relationships are incompatible.  It is important to me to build trust with any relationships.  I would like my boss to trust me in finishing my project. In return, I would like to trust my boss that he will make sure I get recognized for my accomplishment.